Couple Counselling for One

When couples are in trouble there is sometimes one partner realises, or both may know but only one speaks out loud.


Are there good reasons why this may be so?

  • One partner may think there is nothing wrong, or
  • that there is nothing wrong with them, and
  • it is the other partner's fault;
  • This may the second marriage;
  • This may be one of a long list of relationships;
  • There may be no hope;
  • Maybe you are just not meant to be together because of the huge differences in your beliefs...
  • ....and so on... the list is endless because for as many people that exist are the reasons for difficulties in relationships.

One partner may think that there is nothing that can be done to save the relationship or they don't want to dig into things for fear that the relationship will end.

From therapeutic point of view, there is not any position that anyone takes I see is wrong... excepting where one partner wants to talk and the other does not. That shows a lack of respect and due care to the partner and the partnership.

Just because I think nothing is wrong does not mean there is nothing wrong. If you say there are issues then I have to presume there are issues. It is up to me to decide to be part of the partnership and discuss things or leave... metaphorically this is done by giving the cold shoulder or silent treatment.

Couples counselling for one...... gives you hope... because the theory goes like this:

Where one part of the system changes there will be an effect of some sort throughout the system.
Just so you know... one session rarely changes anything. It may take many months for changes to begin and many years before the reward is felt.

The trouble with this... most people want a quick fix and are not prepared to work toward being better in relationships.
"She is the one that needs this... I don't really need to be here.."

How many sessions ddi this person attend? ONE. The other partner attended seven sessions over the following year and slowly changes occured. Sadly, not enough change to keep her in the relationship.

This need not be you. You can develop skills to help you make your relationship better and maintain a happiness and peace that you begin to enjoy.