Couple Counselling

Working with couples (and individuals where the partner is reluctant to come to counselling) at choosingchange will help you decide on the priorities  and preferences you both put forward to discuss. 

There is often not a right and wrong in the matters between partners.  Often both of you have a legitimate need or desire or want… differentiation between these three states is sometimes an important task to undertake.

Couple counselling or therapy covers a multitude of subjects.  Often the process sets out to make the relationship workable… when I operate with couples I am hoping the change will be important to you and long-lasting… it may not be an immediate change… be warned… change can sometimes be a slow process.

Focus on that word process because this is what happens. It is a gradual change in attitudes, actions and behaviours… gradual but momentous.  You will change how you feel and how you are and how your act… these are linked.  If you feel resentful (of your family, work-place, friends or your partner because of past “transgressions” you will most certainly act this out somewhere in your life.  It may be kicking the dog or calling in at the pub on the way home from work.

Resentment harbours loads of bad-will.  Rule of thumb: when you put your key in the door at the end of the day are you really happy to be home?  Do you feel resentful getting out of bed because it is a work day?  Do you only reluctantly get a birthday present for your partner?  Do you even remember your partner’s birthday… your anniversary?  Resentment plays itself out somewhere in your lifer.  Knowing where is the first part of changing how you are in the world.

If you apply knowledge and effort you will be different. If you are ready for that challenge…

By Philip Johnson Google

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